I still remember the moment I discovered I was an introvert. A friend posted this article, “15 Signs You’re An Introvert, Even If You Don’t Feel You Are” on her Facebook feed. I was intrigued and clicked over to read. I felt like the author must have been spying on my life when she wrote the article. She was describing me. I knew I was probably an introvert, but I wasn’t ready to embrace it yet.
That night I shared my findings from the article with my husband. His reaction to my new found discovery was one word, “Duh!” I knew the article and my husband’s response rang true to me but my definition of an introvert was someone who was shy and afraid to talk to people and maybe even someone who didn’t like people. That wasn’t me.
For a while, I tried to deny my introverted tendencies. I made my husband talk about it with me and I analyzed myself over and over. I even made Tim take a personality test with me on our date night. I couldn’t be an introvert. I had zero fear of being on live TV or speaking to large groups of people. “Introvert” was not a label I was going to give myself.
But slowly I started to see that this trait I didn’t want really is me and that my introverted personality makes me who I am. I accepted this new found personality of mine.
Hello, my name is Darla, and I’m an introvert.
While there are negative sides to being an introvert and tendencies I know I need to be aware of in order to have good relationships in my life, there are lots of things about my introverted personality that I think are really cool.
First, number 14 in that eye-opening article says that as an introvert I know what I want. I know what I like and I know what I dislike, which means that I usually don’t waste time doing things that make me miserable. I know what I am capable of and I make a plan to get there. Sounds good to me.
I may not love small talk, but I really value getting to the heart of things when talking with someone. If you need someone to go deep with you or talk about the spiritual side of what you’re going through, I’m your girl.
It’s easy for me to be open and honest. I am pretty confident. Introverts can be self-confident because they don’t get their confidence from the outside world. My confidence comes from within, therefore, if you need me to be frank and say what needs to be said, I can do it for you.
I am comfortable being solo. I can get more things accomplished because I am not waiting around for someone to do something with me. It’s not that I don’t want to build relationships and have fun with other people, but it’s not something I have to have and I like that about myself.
Being an introvert makes writing enjoyable. I don’t like talking on the phone, but I can write an email that is succinct and effective. I love writing because it helps me get all of the thoughts swirling around in my own head out in the open where I can process them. Writing energizes me and is my favorite way to connect with people.
Finally, I am married to an extrovert. Opposites really do attract and that is a good thing. I don’t think our marriage would be as good and as rich if we were exactly the same. I enjoy watching my husband in social situations. His outgoing, extroverted personality is so different from my introverted tendencies, and I am so grateful that we can balance each other out.
I will admit that I still don’t really love socializing in big crowds or shooting the breeze for hours on end, but that’s OK. My name is Darla and I’m an introvert and there are lots of good things about that statement.
How did you discover and embrace your personality?
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